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13 Dating Mistakes Every One Makes And How To Avoid Them
#3 We date for the outcome, not the process
The search for love is one of the most important activities we, as humans, engage in. Nothing expresses our humanity more than the need for deep connection and very few needs are quite as parallel from one human being to another. Very few things matter more to our health and happiness than our choice of a life partner.
Yet all too often, the search itself ends up being a bruising experience. What we anticipate to be a ‘trial-and-error’ process in which we learn as much about ourselves as we do about another person, becomes an ordeal. Why is that?
Nearly everything we have learned about dating is wrong. Dating is an inner game, but instead of searching from the inside out, we have been taught to approach it from the outside in, to accommodate ourselves to the mating market by making ourselves into something we’re not. It should be of no wonder why so many people are yearning for “authenticity” in their search.
The dating world can be a scary and confusing one to navigate. Here are a few mistakes most of us are guilty of that makes it even harder than it has to be:
