9 Habits That Will Make You Happy And Enjoy Life More

All of which you can put to action today.

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Everyone in life wants to be happy, but it’s often easier said than done, especially when we are at a place that challenges our mental strength and emotional stability. Fortunately, there are several things we can do relatively effortlessly to combat the urge to go down the road of negativity. Albeit there are several, here are 9 to begin today:

Wake Up With Gratitude

It shouldn’t be difficult to express gratitude for the things we have in our lives, yet rarely do we take the time to acknowledge our own thankfulness. By beginning each day with a conscious reminder of the things that are good in your life and all that you are thankful for, you are feeding the parts of your soul that will release positivity into the remainder of your day.

Start with the little things — the roof over your head, the food in your fridge, an able body that continues to wake up each and every day. It doesn’t have to be a long list, but you will find as you begin, there is a lot to be grateful for.

Laugh Every Day (after all, it’s free)

Whoever said laughter is the best medicine wasn’t speaking without experience. If you have ever been in an upset mood and someone said something that made you crack a smile behind sad eyes, then you know the feeling it can give you almost instantaneously.

When we laugh, our bodies release a ‘happy hormone’ called oxytocin and this perpetuates a feeling of happiness throughout our body. So the next time you find yourself without a reason to smile, revisit number 1 and then make the effort to do so anyway.

Give Back

One of my favorite things to do is volunteer in my community and believe it or not, the reasoning for it can be seen as mildly selfish although the act itself is fairly selfless. When I give back, I feel good about myself and the work that I am doing to try to make another person’s life a bit better. This is the same way any other person would feel knowing they are an integral part of making someone else’s day, situation, life, etc. a more enjoyable place to be.

The universe loves those of us who make the effort to give back and in doing so, tends to reward us ten-fold in return. The universe will compensate you for your graciousness towards others in its own unique way.

Get Enough Rest and Exercise

It seems these two go hand in hand often and as they should. When we get enough rest, we inevitably have a greater chance of finding the energy to exercise at some point throughout the day. Physical exhaustion leads to mental turmoil. Even if you are not a person who craves physical exercise on a daily basis, the involuntary improvement that can occur from a mental and emotional state might be reason enough to start.

The same ‘happy hormone’ (oxytocin) that is released during moments of smiling and laughter, is the same that is released when a person exercises. Look at it this way, when our bodies are active, they reward us with these kinds of ‘good feelings’ because we are doing exactly what our bodies are intended to do — physical exertion.

Spend Time Alone

I have written before about how vital alone time can be to one’s personal development. In fact, many of the most successful people will share with you their regimen for working alone time into their regular schedules. Alone time should be non-negotiable because it allows you a moment of peace and an opportunity to ‘recharge your spirit.’

Foster Good Relationships

Once you have established a network of individuals who are in your corner, with your best interest at heart, nurture those relationships. It is important to be alone (as the previous point made) for the purpose of self-awareness and growth, but it is equally as important that you have some support system established.

These will be the people who are unconditionally present in your life and who want the absolute best for you and you for them in return. Having a close group of friends or family members is most important in moments where we have forgotten how to love ourselves.

Forgive Yourself

While I could have named this point, ‘Avoid Regret,’ I believe it would ignore the real point of the message. It isn’t about avoiding the things we might regret later on, because oftentimes we do things impulsively that we do not see as a potential regret for the future. Instead, it is most important that we adopt the habit of self-forgiveness.

Expecting to never make a mistake or to avoid regret-provoking decisions seems a bit infeasible for me in my unapologetically human state. I would encourage you to accept your mistakes, learn from each, and accept yourself for who you were in that moment so you can move forward in the direction of who you’d like to be going forward.

Remove Others From The Equation

Though this may seem to argue the previous point about fostering and nurturing relationships in your life, it is important we choose wisely the parts of others we allow into the closeness of our existence. Do not compare others if you wish to move forward in your life as the opinions of others will hold you back more often than not.

Write It Down

I have said it before and I will say it again — journaling could become perhaps one of the most life-changing habits you adopt this new year. There is something about putting to paper the events of the day, the impact each had on your emotional state, and how you plan to move forward that is truly healing for the soul. Even writing down three positive things a day has been said to shift a person’s conscious state to one more positive. Don’t believe me? Try it.

Remember, you are beautifully flawed, far from fragile, and capable of joy even in the darkest of moments. You deserve to be the happiest you have ever been this new year and I hope these tips support that mission.

Written by

Writer. Poet. Philomath. Dog Mom. Traveler. Creator. Wanderer. Teacher. Empath. Author of “Unapologetically Human” - available on Amazon

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