Are You Living Your Life For Someone Else?

There is one thing that you should always be and that is yourself. We all know that there are outside influences that will bend our morale, shape us into something we are not, or just all around change us.

One of the biggest moments of our lives will occur when we fall in love for the first time. The overwhelming emotion that coincides with being in love is enough to turn your world completely upside down, but do not let it.

It’s okay to let the butterflies in and to embrace the nervousness you may feel throughout “the fall,” but do not let it shake the grounds you stand on.

For the longest time, we have allowed others to mold us into who they want us to be: into who we need to be in order for them to stick around.

The truth of the matter is that if and when that person walks away, you will have no clue which direction to step in first.

When you allow your decisions, emotions, actions, and individualism fall short in order to match the image in another’s head, you have already done yourself a great disservice.

This change does not have to occur solely in relationships, because I have watched (and experienced) the same exact change in friendships.

When the desire to fit in overshadows the desire to be true to who you are, then there is no fighting the dissipation of your own identity.

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ~Maya Angelou

If you are who you want to be, feel you should be, and are proud of both of those, then you can never go wrong.

At the end of the day, all we have are ourselves.

Regardless of who says they will “always be there” or they are there “no matter what,” there is no one on this earth that will be there for you in every single moment of your life; therefore, they can never serve the right to justify how you live your life.

Even if you find yourself in the arms of true love, real friendship, or a devoted relationship, they will never experience life in a way identical to you so why give them the opportunity to lead both?

The truth is: it’s okay to be lost, confused, or completely unsure of who you are as long as you do not let anyone else determine who you are meant to be.

Written by

Writer. Poet. Philomath. Dog Mom. Traveler. Creator. Wanderer. Teacher. Empath. Author of “Unapologetically Human” - available on Amazon

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