How To Read Your Own Mind Objectively

No psychic experience necessary.

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No matter where you go or what you do, you will always be enough. This is likely not the first time you have ever heard this line, especially those of you who have spent some time in the armchair of a therapist’s office. Though certain things can be found most believable when they come from the mouths of others, there is something to be said about the impact a quote such as this can have when it comes from the person themself.

As human beings, we are our own worst critics — inevitably. We allow our minds to nurture the negative thoughts, rather than replacing them with the positive, which for many, can encourage the demise of self-love.

Your mind does what it thinks you want it to do.

No matter the ‘newness’ of a circumstance in your life, your mind is waiting for the direction you’d like it to take. For many, negative experiences prompt negative thought, which in turn, results in negative behaviors and feelings. Because our minds work from the inside out, everything begins with the internal dialogue you create within the parameters of your own brain.

Regardless of what you think you’d like to happen, it is the internal dialogue you allow that ultimately dictates what your mind prompts you to do next. Let’s take traffic for example. Sitting in traffic is a frustrating reality for most and many of use this time to find more things to be pissed off about; maybe it’s the boss you can’t stand who is going to rip you a new one when you show up late or perhaps it’s the coffee you spilled on your white shirt when the person in front of you came to a screeching halt moments before. Either way, in that moment, you have a choice to make: either you will encourage positive or negative dialogue, but regardless of what you choose, your mind will respond as it feels it should.

It is in our human nature to want to avoid the things that threaten our safety and comfort. While sitting in traffic, fleeing the situation becomes difficult to do so instead, the negative dialogue you introduce to your subconscious mind now just becomes stress and misery.

So…what can we do instead?

Phase 1:

Muscle testing is an incredible way of getting answers from your subconscious mind. There are so many emotional energies that might be linked to our issues so when I came across this tool and tried it for myself, I knew it was worth sharing.

Because the most important thing with muscle testing is becoming a master at the right questions to ask, and asking them clearly, I have provided below a list of suggested questions that can encourage the removal of an emotional block:

  1. Do I have an emotional component that is contributing to _______ ?
  2. Do I have an emotional component that is preventing me from healing from _______ permanently and completely?
  3. Is the event or incident blocking my healing most, an event that occurred between the ages of 0–20? 20–40? And so on…
  4. Is the primary emotion preventing my healing ______ ? (Try whatever resonates with you — anger, grief, resentment, etc.)
  5. Is my relationship with _____ (enter person) negatively affecting my health?
  6. Do I have any limiting beliefs that are preventing me from healing completely from this ______ ?
  7. Am I completely willing, able and ready to let go of this _______ ?
  8. Is this ______ distracting me from dealing with something scary?
  9. Is there a person I need to forgive in order to heal from this _____ ? You can then start asking who it is, but most often, it’s yourself!
  10. Is the best way to clear ______ using _______ (fill in each energy technique you know)?

Phase 2:

Now that we have spent a little time on the internal side of things. Now, it’s time to begin exercising what our mind believes to be true while encouraging evidence via physical response. Here are a few common practices (along with visual demonstrations) that can be done to facilitate:

CIRCLE AND PRESS:

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  1. Make a circle with the thumb and ring finger of your non-dominant hand.
  2. Insert the thumb and index fingers of the other hand into this circle from the bottom.
  3. Hold light tension in the circle.
  4. Now, as you ask the questions, press the fingers inserted into the circle outward.

Reading the result: Yes = the circle stays closed and holds the press fingers inside. No = the circle opens.

CIRCLE AND POINT:

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  1. Make a circle with the thumb and ring finger of your non-dominant hand.
  2. Insert the index finger of the other hand into the circle from either the top or bottom.
  3. Hold light tension in the circle.
  4. Now, as you ask questions, pull the index finger and circle apart.

Reading the result: Yes = the circle stays closed and holds the index pointer inside. No = the circle allows the index pointer to pull out

FINGER RUBBING:

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  1. Lightly touch the pads of the index finger and thumb of one hand together.
  2. Now, as you ask questions, lightly slide the pads across each other.

Reading the result: Yes = the pads slide very smoothly so there is no resistance. No = the pads are sticky against each other, there is resistance.

*This can also be done using both hands rubbed against each other.*

ONE HANDED:

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  1. Place the pad of the middle finger of one hand on the top of the nail of the index finger on the same hand.
  2. The index finger is straight with the middle finger bending to touch it.
  3. Now, as you ask questions, press down on the index finger with the middle finger.

Reading the result: Yes = the index finger stays straight. No = the index finger bends downward.

LEG TESTING:

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  1. Place one ankle on the top of the opposite thigh at the knee.
  2. Place both hands against the back of the calf of the top leg.
  3. Now, as you ask questions, press the top leg away from you.

Reading the result: Yes = the top leg stays on the thigh of the bottom leg. No = the top leg falls off the thigh of the bottom leg.

*The demonstration is shown standing to provide clearer instruction, but this technique can be done sitting.*

STANDING TILT TEST

  1. Stand up and face North.
  2. Relax your whole body particularly around the ankles

Reading the result: Yes = tilt forward (North). No = tilt back (South)

These practices are not to be adopted for single-use, but for repetition as life events deem it necessary. We are an everchanging species and our human experience should be no different. The majority of the work we have to do begins from within so the sooner we can locate answers to the questionable thoughts and behavior we take to when moments are trying, the sooner we can redirect ourselves in a more promising direction. I have tried each of these techniques and have been nothing short of surprised by both their effectiveness and the results I have received. Many of us adopt subjective opinions as authors of our own stories, but through muscle testing and the right internal dialogue, we can take back ownership of our own narrative and begin telling the story we are meant to share.

Written by

Writer. Poet. Philomath. Dog Mom. Traveler. Creator. Wanderer. Teacher. Empath. Author of “Unapologetically Human” - available on Amazon

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