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How Your Relationships Are A Lot Like Looking In The Mirror
Love isn’t what we are looking for when it comes to friendships and relationships, it’s familiarity.
A couple of years ago, I was getting my nails done at a nearby salon when I got to chatting with the girl sitting next to me. She had recently relocated from California and was new to the area, looking for friends, and hoping to explore the city. We immediately clicked and decided to exchange numbers. Within a few days, we were meeting for brunch and planning a ‘girls’ night out.’ She had a few friends, whom she met at work, and we all seemed to get along fairly well. I believed we were on track to become best friends…until we weren’t.
After a couple of nights out, the friendship began to fade. It wasn’t due to anything in particular and there was no ‘dramatic ending’ to her and I’s friendship. We were trying to work around completely opposite schedules and eventually, days turned into weeks and we fell out of touch. Typically I would be bummed about another friendship ending due to the inability for us to find a time that worked for us to hang out again; however, what I experienced instead was the realization that we had both already served very specific purposes in one another’s lives.
