If You’ve Ever Used This Line When Describing Your Partner, It’s Probably Time To Cut Ties

Familiarity isn’t always best, especially when it comes to relationships.

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“I feel like I’ve known him/her my whole life” is perhaps one of the most dangerous ways of describing the partner you are with. Truth be told, familiarity is one of our worst enemies as human beings and I suspect you are wondering why that is. Oftentimes, our minds crave what’s most familiar, but this isn’t necessarily the direction we should be following.

I use the context of relationships because companionship is one of the most inevitable desires we, as people, possess — right alongside success and acceptance. One of the earliest beliefs we adopt is within the realm of relationships and that being the one we establish (or never seem to establish) with our parent(s). We begin forming our beliefs as they relate to relationships via the lens molded by our greatest centers of influence. The relationship many of us first became exposed to was that of our parents — furthermore, the relationship we have with each parent individually.

The sense of shame and imperfection that your mother or father instilled in you became the catalyst by which you adopted…