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It’s Okay To Let Friends And Family Down If It Means Avoiding This
The wiser part of you already knows the power in the word ‘no.’
Every one of us has some variation of ‘alter ego.’ Some might call it their ‘inner voice’ while others might call it their conscience, but for the sake of consistency, let’s refer to it as your ‘wiser self.’ This is the part of you that becomes most prevalent when you know you are on the brink of breaking a promise, giving up, or abandoning a commitment to yourself. It is the same self that we deny priority over and over again until it forces its way in through catastrophe. This catastrophe can come in all different variances: breakups, being fired, death, terminal illness, financial struggle, or broken friendships. When push comes to shove, that’s when we begin to nurture the relationship we have with ourselves — the moment where we feel we have no one and nothing else.
This is quite literally the opposite of how we should be navigating life. We shouldn’t postpone making ourselves a priority, yet for some reason, the majority of us do.
So I’d like you to consider this: What would it mean for you to implement boundaries in your life that make living your life for you a non-negotiable?
