Repeat These Three Words Every Day And You Are Guaranteed The Life Of Your Dreams

It’s a part of our narrative that replays in our head every single day and we don’t even realize it.

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I recently had someone reach out to me on social media inquiring about some of the content I have chosen to write about — specifically as it related to ‘souls’ and our minds. The conversation began as a healthy debate; however, the longer the messaging continued, the narrower the path became and the smaller the mind of the person on the other end of the debate seemed. Eventually, we reached a dead-end after he shared his belief that I was spitting out false narratives and that once I included very specific religious beliefs (primarily his) that I would ‘finally be sharing the truth.’ For those of you who know me or have been reading my work for some time now, you are well aware that I am about as open-minded as they come and feel religion has no appropriate place in my writing if I wish to cater to a grand audience and one that does not encourage division within any community.

Though the conversation may have not reached a constructive destination, it did put me in thought and that’s a positive draw from what seemed to be negative feedback. The more I thought about the place this individual was coming from, complemented with the recent insight gained through my daily reading, I came to the conclusion that we are all facing the same narrative when it comes to our lives — a narrative that has been standing in the way of many of us achieving the things we have dreamed of. A narrative many of us combat through religious practices, use of vices, and life choices that drown us in overcompensation.

The narrative that replays in the head of many is this: I am not enough.

The statement has a unique origin for each person and life experiences perpetuate its presence and cater to the belief that it is, in fact, true. We might hear it first from our parents, a significant other, a friend, a bully, a sibling, a teammate, a co-worker, or some other member of our first circle of influence. Regardless of who is the first, we then continue to be the next every day thereafter.

The seed is planted by one person, watered with validation, and each time a traumatic episode makes it way into your life, another root digs deeper into the grounds of your belief system until eventually, it’s a part of who you are.

We look to those who we believe ‘have it all’ (celebrities, professional athletes, top executives of the most successful companies, etc.) and are then left in a state of confusion when they are met with demise on their own accord. We feel like we aren’t enough so we try to find the things that will allow us to experience otherwise. A person who ‘can’t get enough’ of a substance or habit doesn’t feel like they are enough deep down inside so they revert to self-medication. These vices can be anywhere from full-fledged drug addiction all the way down to the desperate need for constant attention.

Then we continue to do it until we begin to believe we are enough. The action is oftentimes motivated by a little inner dialogue, stemming from the falsehood surrounding the statement itself.

You don’t go on a diet, because you’ve always been the fat kid and that’s all you’ll ever be.

You don’t take that leap of faith and apply for your dream job, because you’ll never measure up to the rest of the applicants.

You skip out on a date, because they probably wouldn’t have liked you anyway so you’d rather spare yourself the moment of rejection.

You don’t ask for the promotion, because you see everyone around you to be better than you could ever be so they’d probably do the job better than you anyways.

You don’t tell the guy or girl that you like them, because you just know in your gut that they will never like you back.

You get an unsettling look while your child throws an uncontrollable temper tantrum in the middle of aisle 2 and now you’re the worst parent on the planet who just can’t get their sh*t together.

If these sound harsh out loud, then imagine the damage they can do to one’s subconscious mind when played on repeat day in and day out. The truth of the matter is we psych ourselves out of the necessary actions we are most able to take all because we have this ridiculous notion playing over and over again in the back of our minds that we are not enough.

This belief is perhaps the biggest emotional disease affecting humanity today.

As I considered each scenario that could suggest a person not to be enough, I was met with the same argument — the universe believes otherwise.

Consider this: Even if you are born to parents that didn’t want you, the universe wanted you — your very existence is proof of that — and that alone is why you are enough.

But just simply saying it once isn’t going to lead to the life you spend your days dreaming about. You have to make it a habit and a part of the daily discussion you have with yourself. Try writing it on your mirror, the steering wheel of your car or making the wallpaper on your phone/laptop those three words and nothing else. Frame the words and hang it up in your child’s bedroom and notice the difference it makes in their level of confidence. Change all of the passwords you have to include some variation of the words.

Then, tell yourself out loud that you are enough, regularly. Say it in the shower, while on a walk, the moment you open your eyes in the morning — make it a statement of truth. Say it when you are in moments of anxiety or if you are feeling inadequate and say it in multiple tenses. Take the time to say the words: “I am enough, I’ve always been enough, I will always be enough.”

Once you know you are enough, you will no longer be able to sit back and wait for the world to happen. On the contrary, you will acquire a drive to build the full and loving family, career, and life that you know is yours for the taking because you will now know with an unshakable conviction that you are both deserving and worthy of it.

Writer. Poet. Philomath. Dog Mom. Traveler. Creator. Wanderer. Teacher. Empath. Author of “Unapologetically Human” - available on Amazon

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