The Practice Of Self-Hypnosis

And why you need it in your life.

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I recently revisited one of my favorite series on Youtube, The Impact Theory, and quickly questioned why I had allowed it to lose its place in my life to begin with and after watching Tom’s interview with Marisa Peer, I immediately welcomed it back in. Unfamiliar with her work, I went into their discussion with an open mind and came out empowered. Peer is a practicing hypnotist who takes a unique approach to her craft compared to most others in the industry. Hypnosis is the act of shutting down the critical parts of your brain and the healing element to this art is that while it is shut down, you can change the thoughts that often take place.

In her interview, Marisa provided some of the most profound pieces of advice I have ever come across and delegated what was appropriate to her audience. Several months ago I wrote about the importance of self-talk and how powerful the words we tell ourselves can be — so much so that they can make something untrue, true. This philosophy carried into honest waters after reviewing the advice Peer had to share.

Our minds are incredible tools that serve the purpose we give it. In other words, if you understand the mind, then you will know that it does only the things you tell it to do. That’s its job. In the process of hypnotherapy, the other person is merely a guide to help you stay facing the direction of where your negative dialogue comes from. This is so they can locate a starting point to begin retraining the mind. The exciting part about that piece of information is that you can do this practice entirely on your own if you are willing and committed to seeing the process through.

Unpicking your story

We all have a story, some more eventful than others, but all mirrored in one single way — each has invited the belief that we are not enough. No baby is born thinking they are not enough; therefore, this thought has to come from somewhere else along the way. This is an ideal place to begin the process of ‘unpicking your story.’ Every negative thought we hold has a place of imprinting somewhere in our mind, whether it was through a particular experience or individual, there is a starting point to every thought.

Once you know what first introduced the negative thought, you can begin to understand where you must go from there in order to correct the behavior. On the contrary, if you choose to keep talking about the symptom, your mind will keep it alive.

“The number one block is the fear of rejection. If I make it I might get rejected. If I find love they might leave. If I make all that money people won’t like me. So you’ve got to smash out of the ballpark the fear of rejection.”

If you believe the words a previous partner shared with you, then a starting point might be realizing that everything he or she loved about you, was left with you when they did. No one can take away those beautiful things, you still are all of those things; however, you have let the thoughts surrounding that one particular event of rejection to convince you otherwise.

One of the examples used was a young woman who has yet to find the ‘true love’ she desires to have. After an enlightening conversation, it became apparent this was due to the belief that she didn’t fully believe she was worthy of love at that caliber. The more information that was shared, the more apparent it became that the repetition of the phrase, “You will never find a man that loves you as much as I do. I love you more than anyone else in this world” from her father on a regular basis as a child, made it true. When the seed is planted that there is doubt in any form of reality or desire, our minds work to make it true.

The same can be said about positive manifestations. So instead, she urges her audience to say, “I love you because you are lovable and all your life you will find love like this because you are worth it.”

Interrupting the belief

Perhaps the most important part of the entire process of self-hypnosis follows the exposure to what caused the imprint to begin with. It’s the daily tears your mom cried in front of the mirror over her weight when you were a child or the perspective of one doctor that says you will never be able to have a baby.

When we provide others the power to make us feel good, we give them the power to make us feel bad too.

When we reiterate the things we might feel, but now refuse to believe, we can create a shift in our reality. The mind is always on, always recording, and never forgets the things you tell it. Our minds do not understand the instruction “don’t think” so the more we phrase the behaviors we wish to change with the phrase, “don’t think about _____,” we are automatically creating a visual in our mind of exactly that.

Instead, what we should be doing is exciting the imagination with words it can get “turned on” by — words such as wonderful, phenomenal, foolproof, and incredible.

The Command Theory

The practice of Command Theory begins with the understanding that our minds will do the job we give to it — whatever that may be. In other words, if you have a poor memory, replace the phrase, “I forgot” with “Tell me where.” If you are being told you are unable to get pregnant, replace the thought of, “I don’t understand why I can’t” with “It’s time to.” Without instruction, our minds are left to wander into the places we have allowed negative emotions to create.

Invite the things you want into your life, but be very specific.

If you want to have an incredible memory, tell your mind that it is already perfect in its recollections. Tell yourself all of the things you remembered and remind it the things it needs to recall. Whatever result it is you desire, your mind already knows what that looks like — all it is waiting on is the instruction to make it a reality. It shouldn’t be difficult to talk yourself up in this way.

Replace “my” with “the”

Throughout her experience with cancer, Peer shared that she never claimed it to be her own for the reason that once she would do that, it became hers. Instead, she referred to it as ‘the cancer.’ She shared that in doing so in conjunction with her daily affirmations of “It’s time to be well and get well” that lead her to heal.

While there is a point where biology surpasses our mental ability, there is evidence within these practices that our beliefs eventually begin to affect our biochemistry. People allow thoughts that stress them into heart attacks all the time. People talk themselves into depression and suicide in the same way they could talk themselves out of it with a change in focus. This isn’t to diminish those with real health concerns, but the majority of what we allow to stand in the way of ultimate fulfillment, started when we allowed someone the power to replace our inner voice.

I am enough

Any form of rejection that you meet throughout your life is not directed towards your extant, but an aspect of your existence. They are not rejecting who you are, but the incompatible traits uncovered through a romantic relationship. If you write a book and someone says they don’t like it, it is the book being rejected, not you as the author.

The goal in this practice is to reactivate, re-manifest, and regenerate all of the things you were already born with but lost along the way. The mantra “I am enough” is something we can all adopt and should be willing to for a lot of reasons. Though any goal of significance requires you to learn something new, adopt a new habit, or initiate effort in some way, the practice of beginning every day with the admission that you are worthy, is relatively effortless.

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Writer. Poet. Philomath. Dog Mom. Traveler. Creator. Wanderer. Teacher. Empath. Author of “Unapologetically Human” - available on Amazon

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