These Are The 6 Kinds Of People Everyone Should Have In Their Life

How does your circle of influence line up?

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It seems the older we get, the smaller our circle becomes and the more methodical we are when it comes to the people we choose to be a part of our life — at least this is how we should be. Oftentimes, life will create distance between the people that are on separate paths and will introduce space to the dynamic of friendships or relationships that are not meant to be. As we grow more accustomed and aware of our life’s mission, it can become easier to determine the trajectory of the relationships current to your life. If you are unsure whether or not you have the people in your corner that will catalyze growth in your life and success to your goals, then the below list should provide you with a little clarity:

The Nostalgic Neighbor

No, this doesn’t have to be the person living next door (or even within walking distance) but they should provide a remembrance of the neighborhood environment, particularly from the viewpoint of an adolescent. Many of us can recall playing outdoors with the kids in our neighborhood until the street lights came on. Although those moments have long passed, it is important that you allow yourself moments of nostalgia. Nostalgia is defined as a sentimental longing or wistful affection for the past, typically for a period or place with happy personal associations.

Reflecting on moments that bring nostalgia is not the same thing as living in the past. From the moment you enter adulthood, you are surrounded by stressors and all sorts of pressure. Having a person you can go to that reminds you of life’s little pleasures can offer you a mental reset. This is the person who is down for a picnic on a beautiful Saturday afternoon and isn’t too good to chase down the neighborhood ice cream truck on a hot summer day. This person won’t think twice about joining you for a day at the amusement park or an evening of dancing to throwback jams in your living room.

The Promoter of Positivity

This goes without saying — a person who provides unwavering positivity is necessary for each and every one of us. Many people might not have a person that immediately comes to mind and that’s okay. In fact, this could simply mean that you, yourself, are rooted in positivity so much so that external sources are not often needed. It could be that the same person who provides you with moments of nostalgia also nurtures your positive headspace. The most important thing is that you have someone in your corner that will not inundate you with negativity from the moment you answer the phone.

The Intellectual Idealist

An idealist is a person who is guided more by ideals than by practical considerations. While this could seem like a risky persona to introduce into your life, I would challenge the notion in saying that for those who are realists, having someone who is a believer in even the biggest dreams can be monumental for the skeptic. The intellectual disposition is important because it adds practicality to the equation. You can go to this person for intellectual fulfillment, while also seeking validation when it comes to your biggest dreams. Having a person in your corner that can challenge your mind and nourish your intellect is most important for those who wish to avoid mental complacency.

The Accountability Altruist

This is the person who is most aware of your current goals and areas of improvement. You are specific when it comes to where you currently are and how it relates to the place you want to be. This is the relationship that thrives on holding one another accountable and checking in regularly to inquire about the progress of goals discussed. If you desire to stop or start a certain behavior, this will be the person who makes it a point to bring it up in every conversation so as to not allow you to abandon the objective.

The Mindful Mentor

It is likely that you do not currently have a person in your life that fits this description and that’s expected. If you are uncertain about your life’s purpose and ultimate outcome, it can be difficult to determine who would fit the narrative for this role. Oftentimes, the mentor might not come easy. If your goal is to become a public figure who travels around the world giving motivational speeches to various groups of people, it is possible that the person you look up to most for this hasn’t a clue who you are right now. This doesn’t mean they cannot become a mentor for you. By determining who it is you look up to most — the person who is currently living your dream life — you can begin to determine how you can bring value to their life in the hopes they will offer mentorship within yours. In the meantime, make it a point to learn about their journey and don’t ignore the starting points and struggles along the way.

The Comedic Clairvoyant

The title of this persona might seem a little unnerving so allow me to elaborate. A clairvoyant is a person who claims to have a supernatural ability to perceive events in the future or beyond normal sensory contact and I would imagine you know what a comedian is. When you consider what a comedian does for work, it might make a bit more sense. The goal of most comedians is to bring light and entertaining focus on the topics in our life that typically do the exact opposite. So, in essence, they are offering a new perspective by way of laughter. A clairvoyant represents this by sharing ‘visions’ the person in front of them has likely never considered (or might not have the innate ability to see). This is the person you go to for a genuine laugh and lighthearted discussion. This is not to be confused with the nostalgic neighbor as one focuses on the things the world tells us to leave behind while the other helps alleviate the uncontrollable aspects of adulthood that weigh us down. The comedic clairvoyant is a confident source of little pressure and an effortless smile.

It is important to note that while not every one of us will identify people who fit each of these descriptions, it is possible we can offer some of these things for ourselves. By making it a point to sit down and analyze the people you spend the majority of your time with, you can begin to notice which fits into each category. It is possible one person fits multiple personas and it is also possible you do not feel the current need for one in particular. If this is the case, it might be time to revisit your ideal outcome. It might not be that you do not need a mentor, but that you are unsure of which aspects of your life are in need of mentoring. Furthermore, if you do not see the need for an accountability partner, then your goals might be unclear. That being said, the establishment of each relationship begins with self-awareness.

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Writer. Poet. Philomath. Dog Mom. Traveler. Creator. Wanderer. Teacher. Empath. Author of “Unapologetically Human” - available on Amazon

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