To The Person Impatiently Waiting For Things To Get Better
We spend a lot of our lives thinking about the past, wishing a challenging present away, and nervous about the events of the future. Each of us will reach crossroads of variance, offering us one of two (maybe even three) options for moving forward, but what happens when you’re somewhere in between and unsure of when things will improve? A single week of what feels like daily setbacks can be enough to send a person over the edge.
Consider the below week as a mild example:
It’s Monday morning and the sound of your alarm clock bounces off every wall of your bedroom, making its way into your ear canal, alerting you it’s time for you to get up and get ready to head to the job you cannot stand.
It’s Tuesday evening and you realize you still have four more days of chaos, your workload is piling, and you learn you lost out on a promotion to someone who doesn’t even bother coming to the meetings.
It’s Wednesday afternoon and you find out your partner isn’t as invested in your relationship as you are and you’re convinced the volume of the words, “It’s over” are no less than the sound of your heart shattering into a million pieces.
It’s Thursday morning and you reach standstill traffic a moment too late, causing you to brake hard and promptly, spilling coffee down the entire front of your new white shirt. You’re already running late so going back home for a change of clothes is no longer an option.
It’s Friday afternoon and you realize the week is nearing an end and you have yet to go to the gym, despite your resolution to do so five days a week.
Though this is an example of a single week, believe me, I know things don’t often stop here. Both positive and negative energy can gain momentum if we allow them the opportunity to do so. Despite knowing this, positive thinking seems nearly impossible and words of affirmation are nowhere to be found in your inner dialogue.
Self-care is everything.
There is no one who can take care of you like you. It isn’t up to others to determine what it is your soul needs in order to survive this traumatic chapter. In fact, it is nearly impossible for others to know what it is you want; however, having relationships that offer nourishment towards our love of self can be imperative during this time in your life.
It’s okay not to be okay.
I won’t sit here and pretend I am not one who is in the midst of navigating one of the more difficult chapters of my life; however, I find solace in knowing I am not the only one so for those of you reading this, I hope you experience the same feeling of reassurance.
We need to focus on the controllable aspects of our lives and make drawing attention to our inner thoughts and feelings, a priority. I won’t toss in a cliché remark or suggest I know exactly what you need right now, but what I can say is this: every moment in our lives, good and bad, has a purpose. The moments that make you ask, “Why me?” are now moments of, “Why this and what am I going to do with it going forward?”
You are strong, resilient, and capable of navigating this chapter of your life. Do not wish away your today in the hopes for a better tomorrow. Wake up with a grateful heart and spend your first few moments upon waking, rooted in gratitude and compassion for your human self. Tomorrow will come in due time, but for now, let’s focus on making today a bit brighter. You are strong enough to survive (and have survived thus far) 100% of your most arduous days and this, too, will be another way of validating its truth.
Do not negate the experience of feeling each emotion as it comes, but do not allow yourself to become so enveloped in their potentially negative impacts that you lose sight of your resilience. You can and you will get through this — that part is without question — so what is up to you is to decide how you will use this time in your life to either cater to a more promising future or perpetuate the notion that this is now life as you know it.