You see dating is an activity many avoid due to its expectations, devotion of time, energy, and focus — not to mention the cost associated to taking a person out on dates or if they’re not a good fit, and you’re the kind of person to go dutch, for you to pay for your half, but there’s a word to describe all of these things…effort.
I have been picked up for dates 3 times in my entire life. THREE. These are individuals who saw me, met me, conversed with me, gained an interest in me, and then asked me to join them for dinner or some sort of activity. T.H.R.E.E.
I get it.
You’d rather go meet the guy or gal at the restaurant for dinner. It’s well lit, it’s public, and to address the white elephant in this scenario — there will be plenty of witnesses should sh*t go down, but the concerns of safety are beside the point in this argument and I’ll tell you why.
Your assumption here would likely be that I have only gone on three dates, but that is far from the truth. People need to begin to realize that going on a date takes effort, because dating takes effort, and because being in a relationship takes effort.
I feel strongly this is why most people go the easy route when it comes to dating and if I’m being honest, I don’t blame the majority of them either. You see, when it’s easy for a person to find a candidate (dating apps, social settings, introductions from friends, etc.), people carry that same mantra into the physical act of dating. In addition, most don’t want to waste the previously mentioned resources and limited assets, should the date go south, but here’s the thing people: that’s what dating is. It is a risk. It is a demonstration of faith. It is putting to action the interest expressed.
Men and women have such incredible opportunity to blow dates out of the water now-a-days because so many aren’t even attempting to. Stop cutting corners when it comes to a potential future with someone, because what comes before a relationship and the rest of your life: the first date.